There is a first time for everything. Most first time things just make me nervous or excited. But being first time parent has been nerve wrecking, anxiety filled, scary thoughts, and nightmarish times added with a pinch of excitement as well.
As parents, my husband and I didn’t know what to expect once
the baby is born. It was as if God had decided to hand over a little slithery
baby in our hands just in a span of night. And that’s how it really was. One
day we’re all full of excitement and talks about the future, the next day our
hands are full of diapers, wipes and burp cloths (which is still the same)… and
at least a thousand other things on our mind. I am the kind of person who needs
my cell phone, glasses, a novel, a chewing gum, a notepad, a pen and water
beside my bed every night. And I am very specific that I sleep only on my side
of the bed every night (my husband isn’t even allowed to even try to take my
side, try as he may).
Of course, after the baby came, I needed only ONE thing at
night. Diapers!!! Loads of them as if my life depended on it. And it did, for
the major part. And I have stopped thinking about what side of the bed I want –
even the floor will do now. And only – only if the baby gives me permission to
sleep at all.
To top it all, we had no idea what to do with this little
baby with his slimy little body. I didn’t even know how to carry him properly.
My husband wouldn’t even try (for fear of dropping him) lifting him until he
was a month old.
Of course, this is not it. Battling with endless questions
about the newborn, my husband and I googling frantically for answers that might
help us understand the million dollar question – Why is the baby crying? With
my mother and MIL who are experienced mothers offering advises from time to
time, while us sometimes heeding to their advice and at times ignoring them,
thinking that they were giving us old time suggestions that do not work in this
century. Nevertheless, their suggestions have been extremely helpful.
Humans have been delivering children since ages, duh, that’s
how you and I are alive. Yet, with the grand entrance of a baby, our worlds
shifted upside down in just a night as if we were the only ones who have ever
had a baby.
Life is a long and a different learning process. I had
always thought I was done with learning when I moved out of college but that’s
when the real lessons began. And when the baby came, it felt like the biggest
lesson of all. When we held the baby, we knew we had become parents to this
newborn but we didn’t know this – what do we now that we are parents? We
needn’t have worried for the baby knew exactly what we were supposed to do. The
baby gave us lessons by crying, sleeping and eating endlessly letting us wonder
in our heads the same question – what’s happening inside this little body of
his?
To be frank, we didn’t get all our questions answered.
Sometimes, we had multiple answers to one question. Can you imagine the
confusion? We just took it one day at a time with the baby leading us day and
night as he progressed from week to week.
I think it has been fun so far. Being a first time parent is
definitely the most adventurous daring roller coaster ride anybody could ever think
of riding on.
Bottom-line: Always, always listen to people who have had
children. It may not always work but it’s definitely good to listen. (From an experienced new mommy).
About the Author : Chital Mehta loves to explore new books. After becoming a mother, she started this blog to share her experiences as a mother. Apart from being busy with her baby, she makes times for writing, reading and watching movies. She has authored 4 fiction novels. You can find details on her facebook page :Chital Mehta facebook
Write to her : chitalmehta1987@gmail.com
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