Skip to main content

The hullabaloo of first birthdays!!!

First birthdays are always special. Mostly for adults though because the baby who actually has a first birthday doesn’t ever realize it and simply jumps into toddlerhood like any other day. Of course, the parents want to mark the occasion with as much happiness as possible by having a birthday party, crowds which only ends up with having a cranky toddler at the end of the day who has no idea why so many people are bothering and showering him with attention. But that’s just the way it is. First birthdays are always to celebrate all those special first times that the baby went through all his year.

But hey, what about the first times that the parents went through all the year? Why doesn’t anybody ever celebrate the first anniversary of parenthood?

Just like how the baby reaches his milestones each day right until his first year and so on – so do the parents, except that they are widely different from baby milestones.

Mommy-Daddy milestones –

1.       Mommy is surprised at what she looks in the mirror. She has no idea where is her waist. She doesn’t know how to lose all the baby weight but tells herself it’s okay.

Mommy doesn’t know how to breastfeed but tells herself she will learn.

  Mommy has no idea why her baby won’t stop crying. She asks herself, ‘I am a mommy. Why can’t I seem to get my baby calm down’? Eventually, she learns its okay for baby to cry.

 Mommy loses all her sleep. Mommy doesn’t remember the last time she wore make up.

 Mommy screams at daddy so often for no reason. But daddy understands that mommy can be crazy at times which is okay.

  Mommy thinks she has figured out her baby’s needs just when she goes bonkers and realizes there is so much she doesn’t know yet.

  Mommy gets bored of the baby talk that she makes with other parents but realizes that life changes. Baby talk eventually is a daily part of her life which she enjoys.

 Mommy tries hard not to compare her baby with that of her friends’ but tells herself that her baby is special with his own qualities.

 Mommy realizes that she has to discipline herself in order to bring up a disciplined baby which requires a lot of hard work.

 Mommy misses watching movies or going for long walks but tells herself, ‘one day, I’ll be able to do all of those things.’

Mommy doesn’t understand why she can’t manage to keep her house tidy for more than a day but understands it’s okay to be messy at times.

Mommy doesn’t always give importance to daddy because baby comes first all the time but daddy always understands because he knows mommy still loves him.

 Daddy is confused about what to do when mommy wants him to change baby’s diaper but he succeeds after failed tries. He eventually becomes an expert.

Daddy is puzzled when mommy screams at him so often when he isn’t able to calm the baby the way mommy does but tells himself that it’s okay and that he has his own pace to deal with the baby.

Mommy and Daddy don’t tell each ‘I love you’ more often but deep down, they have fallen in love with each other all over again. 



About the Author Chital Mehta loves to explore new books. After becoming a mother, she started this blog to share her experiences as a mother. Apart from being busy with her baby, she makes times for writing, reading and watching movies. She has authored 4 fiction novels. You can find details on her facebook page :Chital Mehta facebook

Write to her : chitalmehta1987@gmail.com


Comments

  1. I had almost the same feelings u wrote in the first year of my parenthood.... After reading this I went back to the memories of my daughter from the day 1 to 1 year..... Gud one ...... Chital

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

my nocturnal adventures

It’s been a little over 24 months (counting the pregnancy days as well) since I had a night out, meaning a late night dinner, or a movie night or just a get-together post dinner. A million things change once a baby comes into a couple’s life. In fact, nothing is ever the same. Though I haven’t really found the time (a mom’s clock is now monitored by her baby) to actually ponder over such things, there are these quiet moments of ‘just me and my athletic mind’ in which I sit down and fret over the things that I miss. But I don’t really fuss for too long, because there is always “someone” who needs you almost 24/7 and I have to practically pull myself together every single day to cater to the needs of this little tiny human being who is now the center of my world.
Anyway, it so happened that this little human whom I shall call “anklebiter(AB)” because he really bites through anything these days ( his favorite, though, are humans). So, AB must have sensed that I was probably missing on a …

Pregnancy Blues!!!

I haven’t been blogging much these days and that’s because new changes are taking place inside of my body. Well, growing a human being means a lot of things because everyday is new and different. Very often, you find yourself tracing back to the time of the first pregnancy and find that things are so much different because of the way you look at the days.


Of course, I ask myself quite often when I look at my active 4-year-old jumping up and down on the couch, screaming on the top of his lungs as to why I would want to add more noise and madness to my life by bringing another little human? I trace back my memory to the moment when just a few months ago I had started longing for the touch of a baby. Instead of simply watching some baby videos on YouTube or cooing over a friend’s baby, I decided to have one of my own. Pinch me!
Or perhaps, I am so used to the madness that a child brings along that I simply decided to add more of it into my life. Because hey, who wants a life where you …

What’s good about Workin’ Moms on Netflix?

As moms, I think it’s very important to find ways to de-stress ourselves as we do repetitive things day and night to show our children why it’s important to cultivate good habits. As much as we do the same things with the goal of raising good humans, it’s sometimes boring. Yes, that’s the tiny little truth not everybody will admit too.
 Motherhood, as much as it’s exciting, can be boring and monotonous. But the good news is that the boring plus the good parts don’t last forever as children grow out of each phase. Tada! Before we know it, the kids are tall and big, as we wonder what happened to the tiny humans we created not so long ago.
Anyway, coming back to the topic, I recently got hooked to a Canadian series on Netflix which is titled ‘Workin’ Moms’ which is about four working mothers who balance their personal and professional lives. It’s about mothers who love their children but also love their jobs, it’s about mothers who sometimes don’t want to have sex because they simply a…