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The hullabaloo of first birthdays!!!

First birthdays are always special. Mostly for adults though because the baby who actually has a first birthday doesn’t ever realize it and simply jumps into toddlerhood like any other day. Of course, the parents want to mark the occasion with as much happiness as possible by having a birthday party, crowds which only ends up with having a cranky toddler at the end of the day who has no idea why so many people are bothering and showering him with attention. But that’s just the way it is. First birthdays are always to celebrate all those special first times that the baby went through all his year.

But hey, what about the first times that the parents went through all the year? Why doesn’t anybody ever celebrate the first anniversary of parenthood?

Just like how the baby reaches his milestones each day right until his first year and so on – so do the parents, except that they are widely different from baby milestones.

Mommy-Daddy milestones –

1.       Mommy is surprised at what she looks in the mirror. She has no idea where is her waist. She doesn’t know how to lose all the baby weight but tells herself it’s okay.

Mommy doesn’t know how to breastfeed but tells herself she will learn.

  Mommy has no idea why her baby won’t stop crying. She asks herself, ‘I am a mommy. Why can’t I seem to get my baby calm down’? Eventually, she learns its okay for baby to cry.

 Mommy loses all her sleep. Mommy doesn’t remember the last time she wore make up.

 Mommy screams at daddy so often for no reason. But daddy understands that mommy can be crazy at times which is okay.

  Mommy thinks she has figured out her baby’s needs just when she goes bonkers and realizes there is so much she doesn’t know yet.

  Mommy gets bored of the baby talk that she makes with other parents but realizes that life changes. Baby talk eventually is a daily part of her life which she enjoys.

 Mommy tries hard not to compare her baby with that of her friends’ but tells herself that her baby is special with his own qualities.

 Mommy realizes that she has to discipline herself in order to bring up a disciplined baby which requires a lot of hard work.

 Mommy misses watching movies or going for long walks but tells herself, ‘one day, I’ll be able to do all of those things.’

Mommy doesn’t understand why she can’t manage to keep her house tidy for more than a day but understands it’s okay to be messy at times.

Mommy doesn’t always give importance to daddy because baby comes first all the time but daddy always understands because he knows mommy still loves him.

 Daddy is confused about what to do when mommy wants him to change baby’s diaper but he succeeds after failed tries. He eventually becomes an expert.

Daddy is puzzled when mommy screams at him so often when he isn’t able to calm the baby the way mommy does but tells himself that it’s okay and that he has his own pace to deal with the baby.

Mommy and Daddy don’t tell each ‘I love you’ more often but deep down, they have fallen in love with each other all over again. 
About the Author : Chital Mehta loves to explore new books. After becoming a mother, she started this blog to share her experiences as a mother. Apart from being busy with her baby, she makes times for writing, reading and watching movies. She has authored 4 fiction novels. You can find details on her facebook page :Chital Mehta facebook

Write to her : chitalmehta1987@gmail.com


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  1. UnknownApril 18, 2016 at 11:00 PM

    I had almost the same feelings u wrote in the first year of my parenthood.... After reading this I went back to the memories of my daughter from the day 1 to 1 year..... Gud one ...... Chital

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